The first year of marriage is very crucial as you are still adjusting to the new life. Don’t worry, we are here to help! We have compiled some of the problems that you are most likely to face and how to deal with them:
TIME MANAGEMENT
As the reality sets in after a long festive shadi, it becomes more difficult to manage time. you have to spend time with your husband, the family and have to adjust your job somewhere in between as well. what you can do is make a schedule for yourself, prioritising all your work. this will not only give you peace but will also allow others to adjust to your routine. We know this is easier said than done, but all good things take a little bit of practice and effort.
GIRLS DAY OUT! –
Many of your squad members might still be unmarried this might cause them to have frequent hangouts which you might not be able to attend because of lack of time. You can always talk to it about them and ask them to have the next hangout near your place so it becomes easier for you to squeeze in the plan with your busy schedule. Or plan it on a day when you are free. Or maybe they can keep in mind that last minute plans don’t suit you, so next time they’ll give you prior notice! If they are your good friends they’ll always try to understand., you just nee to communicate things clearly to them.
“SHARING IS CARING” –
You suddenly have to share your everything with another person that is called husband. Boys are usually carefree and messy; you’ll have to adjust to his stinking habits. No matter how much irritating it may seem to have wet towels on the floor or dirty clothes randomly scattered in the room; you’ll have to deal with it. Because nagging won’t help, it’s probably the part of him that will never change. But you can always talk to him about what bothers you and what not in a nice tone instead of an angry one.
PLAYING JUDGE AND JURY –
If you are having a difficult time communicating with your in-laws. Don’t be too quick to judge and think of them as bad people; they might be feeling the same about communicating with you. Share your problem with your husband, explain it to him why you are feeling like that and ask for his advice on what you should do. For he knows and understands his family better.
TOO MUCH EXPECTATIONS –
It usually happens especially if you are living with a joint family, they have their own personal standards set for you and expect you to score 100% on them. You might not be the ” ideal bahuu” they imagined you might be. You might not like your sasuma’s taste in clothes or might have a different cooking style. You might not be as social, outgoing or domestic as they are. And it’s your right to have your own independence, you can’t live life of a lie. The best way is to politely approach them and explain them your situation and feeling about this. Ask them to be cooperative and understanding aswell. Don’t get irritated or angry, you need to stay calm. Plus, involve your hubby in this matter for you will always need his support.
WORK, WORK, WORK! –
If your in- laws are really nice, they might not say it but even they would want you to participate in home chores even if there are maids to do the work. When your hubby leaves for work you have to get up and make breakfast and wait till he leaves, even then you cannot sleep because by that time the others will be awake and you have to help with their breakfast too. Then you have to look after the cleanliness of the house. Or bring tea to your in-law parents every now and then like a sughar bahu!
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