Here in Pakistan, whether you are having an arrange marriage or love marriage, one thing is for sure, that you are getting married ANYWAYS. And both love and arrange marriages have their own pros and cons. After all woh kehte haina, Shadi ka laddu, jo khaaye pachtaye aur jo naa khaye wo bhi pachtaye. Don’t agree? Well, we’ll let you know what happens in both the scenarios and you can decide it yourself.
What happens in a typical Arrange Marriage?
First of all, a moment of silence for the people who in today’s world opt for an arrange marriage. Although, it has its own beauty and charm but seriously? Do you think the whole rishta searching process is worthy? Anyways…
The whole process starts from:
Rishtey dhundne wali aunty se raabta OR >
Asking all the khandan walay to search for a good rishta for your son or daughter >
Going for a perfect rishta hunt. Home to home. Eating lots of samosay kachori >
Pasand nahin aaye? Reject >
Unko pasand nahin aaye? Again reject >
Annnnd… after all the hassle finally when you are lucky to find a dhang ka rishta, the actual chaotic process starts. The whole sharmanay wala process takes place from the day you get rishta-fied. You will meet all their khandaan walay one by one, with their judging perspective and will be rated accordingly. So get ready to receive all ‘’ Theek hai par height thori kam hai’’ type of comments. And you know what the best part is? You can’t say anything because, it’s an arrange marriage and you are obliged to hear what they say.
Now when the shadi tayari starts, and you accommodate your in laws for buying your shaadi ka jora, I am 110% sure you that will check the price tag first because you have no idea ke wo kya sochenge. And the odds are you may end up choosing the dress you hated lekin kya karein sasu maa ki pasand thi naa?
Now from the mehndi celebrations to the actual wedding day, you will just feel shy about everything. Just in case ke sasural waalon ko kuch bura naa lag jaaye. You will take notice of all the small details. And this doesn’t end here, even after the shaadi you will need time to adjust because you are unaware of the family, their rituals, and moods of every khaandan wala. So be prepared if you are planning an arrange marriage with ammi ki pasand ki larki/larka, as you have no idea what will you go through. [Fingers crosses]
What happens in a Love marriage?
Love marriage has its own charm. And nowadays, people prefer choosing someone they already know rather than undergoing a whole process of an arrange marriage. But how it actually starts? Let’s see.
The whole process starts from:
So you both meet in a college or university or somewhere in the office and quickly develop feelings for each other. And after all the kasmay waaday now you decide a formal meeting with your family members, and they already know you have decided all the things so they are like hamay kya karna hai ab? Anyhow, they are entirely prepared for the date fixing thing. So it goes along as a chatt mangni patt biyah sort of thing.
And the best part is that, from the shopping to the venue decoration, everything is planned together. As you don’t have to be formal and you can plan everything as you always wanted.
A big shout out to all the people who are getting married this year as we know how hard you have tried. So whether it’s an arrange marriage or a love one, make sure you make the most of it. Just love all the small and big things because they make your wedding precious.
About Shadi Tayari
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