“To be loved but not known is comforting but superficial. To be known and not loved is our greatest fear. But to be fully known and truly loved is, well, a lot like being loved by God. It is what we need more than anything. It liberates us from pretense, humbles us out of our self-righteousness, and fortifies us for any difficulty life can throw at us.” ― Timothy Keller.
We all know how weddings have become a lavishing affair with huge spending on each of the events. It’s almost as if an exuberant and extravagant wedding is the norm and if you do not do it that way, you will be regarded as an outcast. What we forget is that there are deeper aspects to consider when talking about marriages – aspects more profo thund thane dress of the bride or the menu in the Mehndi function.
Marriage is a sacred union of two people who will spend the rest of their lives together. It deserves at least some thought and consideration from the couple about how they would want to spend the rest of their lives together. Here at Shadi Tayari, we help couples find the best wedding suppliers’ for their wedding. We are Pakistan’s first and only wedding suppliers’ directory.
Let’s take a look at some of the things to consider when you plan out your wedding:
Do You Really Know Your Partner?
Apart from the superficial things, such as the likes and dislikes in food and movies, do you really know what kind of a person your partner is? Do you know what drives him/her? Do you know how he/she will react when the chips are down? Make sure you get to ‘really’ know your partner so that you have a smooth sailing later on. It is only after a deeper understanding of your partner that you can have a truly meaningful relationship.
What About The Kids?
This is a discussion one must really have before the marriage. Do you agree on the number of kids you want to have and the manner in which they will be raised? Make sure that you and your partner are honest about this from the very beginning and that you both convey your feelings to each other effectively.
The Arguments – Who’s Going To Win When?
You must acknowledge that your marriage will have difficult moments in the future – all marriages have and it would be unrealistic to think otherwise. Ask your partner questions like, what drives you mad? What do you dislike most about me? And so on. The answers to these questions will reveal a lot. Discuss in great detail about how you are going to manage these topsy-turvy moments.
How Will You Manage Finances After Marriage?
Although the most important discussion, money is something that most couples do not like to talk about in the beginning. To have a great married life ahead, you should discuss how you are going to handle the financial matters of the house. Will both of you work? What about the loans? How will you manage when you have a child? Talk about these issues and more to have a better understanding of your situation.
Are You Keeping Too Many Expectations From Your Partner?
It is believed that successful marriages are marriages with low expectations. Now, you might be thinking that your partner is super cool, witty, ambitious, open – in short, perfect in all regards. Well to disappoint you, you might not be thinking like this after some years have passed. The same habit that you find cute now may become annoying later on. The ‘honey-moon’ phase will not continue for your entire life so make sure you truly understand this.
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