Making a marriage work is a two-way stretch in which you and your husband have to work together. It’s extremely important for you and the man you choose to marry, to be on the same page. Your choice of a life partner may well be the most important decision you ever make.
1. “WORKING HOUSEWIFE”- WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THAT?
working wife is a coming concept now, but still, some families see it as a hindrance in the household chores. you need to discuss with him how to distribute the chores and you can’t so everything on your own. Also, your future partner must respect your job and be proud of what you do for a living. At no point should he make you feel like your work is less important than his.
2. WHATS YOUR TAKE ON HAVING KIDS?
You both might be wanting kids at different times, so you must find a middle way to it. Like you might be wanting to have kids in a year so so but he plans on having them after 2-3 years. So, you must agree to a middle way.
3. ARE WE GONNA LIVE WITH YOUR PARENTS OR HAVE OUR OWN HOME?
It’s not a bad thing to live with in-laws or alone. Each situation has its own pros and cons. But what do you as a couple want? And this decision should be a joint decision, not a forced one for either of you two. It’s very important that you’re both happy living in the environment that you are.
4. IS THERE ANY MEDICAL CONDITION OR IMPORTANT THING THAT I SHOULD KNOW?
A lot of times an individual pressurised into getting married or at least meeting a prospective match. Ask him if he really is looking to get married.
5. WHAT STANDARD OF LIVING DO YOU PREFER?
We all have a basic standard of living and no one wants to compromise on it. But apart from the earnings, one also needs to discuss the expenditures, the savings and the investments. You need to know each other’s spending/ saving habits to make sure that there are no money-related fights later.
6. WHAT IS YOUR IDEA OF PERSONAL SPACE?
Your life partner should trust you enough to let you have your ‘me time’, to let you take that time off with your besties and not always be overprotective or possessive. While marriage should give you a sense of belonging, it should not take away your freedom.
7. WHAT ARE YOUR PRIORITIES – LOVE, FAMILY, CAREER?
You need to know your partner’s priorities!. Is he that much driven by his career that he wont mind putting money first? Or is he firm that his family will always come before yours? Does he put love and relationships right at the end or does he take his career a bit too seriously? Its better to have all the priorities in sync in a way that you are comfortable with it.
8. WHAT ARE YOUR EXPECTATIONS FROM ME?
Does he expect you to dress a certain way or wake up at a particular time? Or is he the kind of guy who is far from these typical expectations? There will be changes after marriage but these can’t be forced. Moreover, petty things like clothes/ dressing style should never ever be a topic of concern.
9. ARE YOU WILLING TO GET MARRIED OR ARE YOU DOING IT BECAUSE OF FAMILY PRESSURE?
it’s best you ask this question before going ahead in any direction. A lot of times an individual is pressurised into getting married or at least meeting a prospective match. Ask him if he really is looking to get married.
10. IS THERE SOMEONE ELSE YOU LIKE AND WANT TO MARRY?
The guy has every right to express his choice. Sometimes the family pressurizes the guy to get married to the person they think is best for him and are not allowing him to get marry to the person he like. or sometimes the guy hasn’t told about that special someone to his family for whatever reason and is just seeing the rishtas for the sake of his mom and elders. So its better that you ask him if he already has someone special in life.
11. DO YOU WANT TO ASK ME SOMETHING?
You cannot be the only one asking all kinds of questions, right? You’ve got to give him the chance to put forth his questions too! Knowing his areas of concern will also help you learn a lot more about him. So once you’ve satisfied yourself, do let him shoot his questions too.
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