Brides in this era of 2017 are not your traditional brides. Here is what happens when you try to do something out of the box:
DONT STOP ME TODAY – ITS MY WEDDING!
What’s the fun in just watching all your family and friends dance at your wedding and you are just sitting there feeling left out spectating them..? Its okay to have some fun and show some moves; it’s your day after all! Especially when you have better moves than all of them.
Brides of today are ready to break this ” dulhan dance nahi kertein” old school rule. Brides have started to perform on their weddings too. Even couple dances are being held on mehndis and Valimas where both the bride and groom dance together.
BEING THE “SHARMILI” BRIDE –
when people are constantly telling you “beta dulhan zor zor se nahi hansti” or ” Dulhan ko thora sharma k rehna chahiye. kam bolna chahiye” and you really not get the comcept behind that. Like why can’t a bride to be act like a normal person? You are doing a legal wedding, why should you act shy?
NO TIME TO WORRY WHEN FOOD IS LIFE –
You know it’s your wedding when all the khandaan ki aunties including your mom is after you to control your diet because you don’t wanna look “curvy” on your wedding day. 
But you don’t really care if you get fat because food is the solution to all problems. Food is love! Food is life!
AUNTIES WILL ALWAYS GOSSIP –
Well, aunties are sure to gossip about how “uncultured” you are for not being the stereotype bride.
But who cares? They are gonna gossip no matter what you do. Therefore brides don’t care anymore what these aunties have to say. 
I AM NOT CRAZY, I AM HAPPY!
Always judging you for not being the “conventional bride” when you are laughing, giggling, being active, taking responsibilities of the preparations and acting like a normal person and most importantly enjoying yourself.
But you really don’t care about their comments because you are too busy being comfortable and happy in your own skin.
BRIDES CAN’T DO THIS, BRIDES CAN’T DO THAT –
It gets on your nerves how you are constantly being told that you can’t go out, or you should not hang out with your guy friends anymore even when your soon to be husband doesn’t have any problem with that, or that you have to put ubtan and not shower for days till your barat day, or how you should always be in tip-top condition even when you are at home relaxing. All this just because you are a bride.
Sometimes, it gets so frustrating that you can’t even say no and have to go by the lame stereotypes.
NOT GOING TO MARRY A STRANGER –
You really don’t get the idea of not talking to random strangers all your life but deciding a lifepartner over a cup of tea with a stranger… So your idea of getting to know and falling in love with the person first.
Plus, you really don’t know how to act when the rishta walay comes. So you end up being weird and fake..
THEY SEE ME ROOLIN‘, THEY HATIN’ –
Some of your extended family members and your relatives are constantly getting annoyed if they feel you are destroying their mindset of being a “perfect” bride or how brides should act in general. You’ll e seeing those complaining faces everywhere.
But you don’t have to worry about them. Talking is what people do no matter how much you try to meet their expectations. You have your own opinion and views and it’s okay to live by them as long as you feel right in the guts. You don’t have to do anything just because ” That’s what brides are supposed to do.” 
WE’LL SEE ABOUT KIDS LATER, LET ME GET MARRIED FIRST!
You are not even through with all the wedding functions yet and people are asking you about when are you going to have kids. Sometimes you get so frustrated that you have t give them a shut up call. And its not completely wrong to ask them to not talk about it because its something personal and between you and yur husband, you shouldnt be pressurized by what people has to say. It’s not like the olden days where brides would start “Sharmaying” when asked such annoying questions.
WHY DO I HAVE TO CRY..?
we agree ruksati is an emotional moment for some people and they couldn’t hold their tears back. But some brides, especially the modern day brides they don’t cry and that’s fine too. Like it’s not a hard and fast rule that a dulhan should cry at the time of ruksati. If you believe that it’s a happy moment that you are finally gonna live with your soul mate and you are just want to enjoy the moment it’s okay you don’t have to force yourself into tears just because loog kia kahein ge.
In a way it’s good to ditch the old school traditions and do something new and fun. Its your wedding day make it as beautiful and aesome as you have always dreamt it to be.
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